We spend the majority of adolescents and adult years searching for the 'one.' Going from relationship to relationship from the time we are 16 in search of the so called soul mate. But at the supposed end of that search when you get married you are have supposed to have found the one, but with the divorce rate at 51% chances are the person that you think its the 'one' couldn't be further from it.
Especially, as a women, we grown up with the jaded ideas of Disney romances and boy meet girls movies that fill our childhood. But those aren't true. Life is messy, people are complicated. There is no prince charming that comes riding in at the last second to save you. You have to save yourself. There are just people. Flawed human beings like yourself wanting to be loved. Sometimes loving someone isn't enough...actually i feel a lot of the times it is never enough. Because just like people,love changes it evolves,grows stronger or weaker. The whole idea of a 'soul mate' sounds like complete bullshit to me.
Happiness isn't defined by 2.5 kids, a house with a yard, a dog, and so called Mr. Right.
The kind of love I am talking about is scared, more than an hallmark card could ever capture. I think people use the word love to freely. The word has deeper implications then the casualness of which it said.
The Haitian sensation told me I need to be more open and giving of my love and let people in if i ever want to be happy. The thing is, I am already like that. I will give anyone the opportunity to be in my life,until they give me reason not to.
Also he said part of my problem is that I don't equate sex and love. I don't think there the same thing, I never have. Yes, sex can be an expression of love, but as sometime you just need a fuck.
I know you have to risk being hurt if you want to get anything in life especially love. But is it wrong of me to wait for a person who is worth the risk.? And I aven't found anyone who is worth the risk yet
I don't believe in settling for anything less so that I can say I have someone and don't believe having a boyfriend or a girlfriend(in my case defines me as a person.) Because it doesn't, it can't. happiness isn't defined by someone else, your happiness can't be dependent on whether or not someone is laying on the other side of the bed when you come home. Because if it is you will never truly find happiness. Happiness(at least by my definitions) is when i know that i am okay just the way i am whether or not I have some to call me own. I think that where a lot of people go wrong- by defining themselves by there relationships. i want someone who compliments me not completes me because no one can ever do that for you. You(I) have to complete myself.
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